Imperfectly Achieving Your Goals

It is vastly important to remember what makes you human.  Your imperfections are what make you unique and allow you to connect with other people.  Have empathy for yourself as you meet obstacles and make mistakes.  Have empathy for yourself while you refine your character as you stumble along.  These are the experiences that will shape and build who you…

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What do a Hairdresser and a Programmer Have in Common? Six Ways to stand out in your field.

The normal person who cuts my hair was out today, but I put my name on the list anyway.  While waiting, another hairdresser was in the front area consulting with a woman who was getting highlights.  It was evident that she either had a lot of knowledge, or that she was clueless.  My knowledge of coloring and “W’s” and “V’s” etc.…

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How Fear Can Undermine Your Chances at Making a Real Connection

We can smell fear about as well as dogs and bees can.  (Thanks for the reference, little boy from Jerry Maguire!) Face it, if you’re in a conversation with a person who seems nervous, you probably feel awkward and are searching for a way to end the conversation and politely move on with your day.  It’s uncomfortable. I ran into a…

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Another “Secret” to a Happy Life

“The sleep of a laboring [wo]man is sweet” -Solomon We often fantasize about not having to work.  Our culture often promotes this ideal.  Automate!  Optimize!  Delegate!  Put systems in place, and you won’t have to work!  So many are making the shout.  The truth is, when I look back, I’ve always been happiest when I’ve had work to do.  To…

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Luck’s Three Step Formula, and My $2,000,000 Mistake

“To be ‘lucky’, you must build the skills you’ll need in order to ‘attract’ the luck you want.” Luck is about attracting and then acting upon opportunities.  Though some people just seem to have all the luck, they have it because they act on opportunities when others do not.  Most people have a skewed vision of luck as a passive…

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When should you fight and when should you give in?

Fight, and you may win; let go, and you may feel like you’ve given in; but what are you fighting for?  What do you value? If you’re holding on and fighting because you’re angry about a situation or an individual…or if you feel wronged in some way or another…it becomes important to evaluate what’s at stake before launching into a battle.…

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We Try to Control Everything While Feeling Like we Control Nothing. Do we Really Have Any Control?

In our lives, we spend so much energy wrestling for control.  What do you really have control over?  You don’t have control over the family you’re born into.  You don’t have control over what other people do or say to you.  You don’t have control over other peoples perception of messages you send.  As an educator, this is a difficult…

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Read This Before You Give Up

Are you feeling regret when you you look around at what others “have”?  That feeling you’re feeling is very common.  Hang in there.  It’s something that most people would agree they have felt.  If they say they haven’t, they’ve probably forgotten or are lying to you. 🙂  Depression tends to come from our anxiety about the future.  We look into the…

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